Closing Cycles
19/1/2015
One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we
insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the
meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it,
what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have
finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave
your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended
all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has
happened.
You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why
certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned
into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for
everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your
children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life,
and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy
souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the
books you have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of
what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means
making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we
lose. Do not expect anything in return; do not expect your efforts to be
appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.
Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and
over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that
is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken
off, work that is promised but there is no starting date and decisions that are
always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself
that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that
person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance but simply because
that no longer fits your life...
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, and shake
off the dust.
Stop being who you were and change into who you are.
(Quoted from 'Closing
Cycles' by renowned author Paulo Coelho)
